When Skills Come and Go: Understanding FASD Beyond the Surface
Why Consistency Isn’t Always Possible – and What You Can Do
September 9 is FASD Awareness Day – a time to recognize and support individuals living with Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder (FASD). It’s more common than many people realize, and yet still deeply misunderstood.
What Does FASD Look Like Day-to-Day
Imagine being able to write your name perfectly for years and then one day, you just… can’t. A few hours later, the skill returns like nothing happened.
For many adults with FASD, this kind of unpredictability is part of everyday life. It’s not laziness or defiance – it’s how their brain works.
Teachers might say, “But you did this yesterday.” Parents might assume someone isn’t trying. And the person with FASD is left wondering why their brain suddenly dropped the ball.
This inconsistency isn’t a choice. It’s a neurological reality. And it’s exhausting.
Understanding that can change everything.
So What Can You Do – Right There in the Moment?
Whether you’re a teacher, employer, friend, or family member, here are a few ways to support someone with FASD:
- Pause before reacting. If someone suddenly struggles with a task they’ve done before, resist the urge to correct or criticize. Instead, ask, “Want to take a break and try again later?”
- Avoid assumptions. Inconsistency doesn’t mean someone isn’t trying. It means their brain is working differently.
- Offer gentle reminders. Repetition helps. A calm, respectful reminder, without frustration can make a big difference.
- Celebrate effort, not just results. If someone shows up, tries again, or asks for help, that’s a win.
And when things don’t go as planned? That’s okay too. The ability to adapt, whether it’s changing a routine, adjusting expectations, or simply offering a second chance can make all the difference. Flexibility shows respect and builds trust.
Take Action for FASD Awareness Day –
September 9
Compassion in the moment is powerful – but lasting change takes collective action. That’s why I invite you to take the next step and join us in raising awareness and support on FASD Awareness Day, September 9.
WEAR RED: Show your support by wearing red, especially red shoes. This movement began with RJ Formanek, a Canadian advocate living with FASD, who chose red shoes to spark conversations.
“When I looked down, I would see those red shoes… and I knew I could find the strength… the will to look up.”
LEARN MORE: Join Asante at Foundry Maple Ridge on September 9 from 2:30 to 4:30 PM for a community event. Can’t make it? Learn more about Asante and FASD in general on our website.
AMPLIFY OUR VOICE: Share this blog and our social media posts to help others understand the importance of prevention, support, and acceptance.
DONATE: Your donation helps provide individuals undergoing assessment with a family support worker—someone who offers practical and emotional support throughout the process. Every little bit helps. Donate here.
By shifting how we respond to neurodiversity, we help people with FASD thrive, not just survive.
Thank you for caring,
Allison Wong, Clinical Supervisor
